The term complexed comes from complex, a verb that alludes to suffer (or cause to suffer) a complex of a psychic type. Self-complexed, therefore, is an adjective that qualifies the person suffering from a complex of this kind.
To understand what the notion of self-complex alludes to, one must be clear about what a psychic complex is. It deals with thoughts, symbolic images and emotions that affect the behavior of a subject, remaining generally repressed. These ideas are linked to the person’s experiences.
The self-conscious human being is disturbed by this system of thoughts, images and emotions that is built through his experiences. Suppose that an obese teenager gets constantly taunts of his fellow school who laugh at him and put offensive nicknames. The boy, in this situation, is self-conscious about his physical condition. In this way, he prefers not to attend social events, does not play sports or goes to the pool. His intention is to “hide” his excess weight and go unnoticed. As you can see, this psychic complex modifies your behavior, as you may feel like enjoying a party or swimming in hot weather, but you choose not to.
The complex arises from a disagreement of the person with some aspect of his existence. From the perception of himself, the subject can develop a feeling of incapacity. In this way, he becomes a self-conscious individual who cannot feel fully.
There are people who can cope better with others than feeling complexed by certain circumstances. However, the ideal is to get behind being self-conscious and for that nothing better than to undertake the following actions, according to psychologists:
– The first thing to do is clearly identify why you have a complex.
-In the same way, it is essential to try to end negative thoughts that you have from feeling self-conscious.
– No less relevant is to proceed to accept reality and also to realize that nobody is perfect, that everyone has positive and negative things, but that what is really important is knowing how to find the good side of everything.
-It is also necessary not to judge yourself harshly.
-Of course, the best thing to do is to laugh at yourself, since, in this way, an important step is taken so that those who hurt with this complex do not do it. Of course, because if they see that the “affected” himself does not give importance and will not feel bad about the circumstance in question, they will no longer have any element to harm him.
-You have to try not to stay anchored in the defects or in the improvable things that you have, if not in all the good things that you have, be it on a physical or personality level, for example.
-It is also relevant not to be so demanding and to improve as far as self-confidence is concerned. That without overlooking that it is relevant to accept as one is and even think about how you can improve.